Blonde Marilyn Or Brunette Jackie..?

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So apparently Blondes have more fun..?

The flirty connotations of the Blonde Marilyn Monroe and the 'serious' Brunette Jackie Kennedy, along with the factual history of the 35th President John F Kennedy cheating on his sophisticated wife Jackie with the sex symbol Marilyn, can make blondes to either appear as the, (for lack of a better word), more slutty hair group, yet on the other hand, perhaps the more fun loving..? Either way, what has now become a phrase which was even used in the film 'Legally Blonde', the 'Jackie or a Marilyn?' debate forms around one main difference between the two as characters and stereotypes. Their hair colours.

Now my natural hair colour is a mousy/dark blonde colour. A colour which I desperately wanted to brighten up, so at 13 I had my first blonde highlights and never went back... until now 7 years on at the age of 20 I made the brave decision of going Brunette. A thought that I had been pondering for a while and as I announced it to my hairdresser on the phone as I booked my appointment she replied to me with "Are you sure? Do you want time to think about it?" Even on the day off the appointment she triple checked with me but being too scared that I would chicken out myself, I knew it was then or never.

Okay, so your probably reading this and wondering why a simple thing such as dying my hair would seem such a big deal to someone. But the thing is, it is a lot more than that. Its about me growing up.

My love of all things pink and girly always made me the 'Barbie'. I even recall that at a science trip to the Zoo, as I had the map and being an animal lover had visited the Welsh Mountain Zoo many times, I was named for the day 'Tour Guide Barbie'. But being called Barbie has never bothered me. I like Barbie! But the connotations that come with it are not always as fun loving... I come from a small town where not really a lot is expected of anyone - least of all the girly Barbie Girl who's always late for class and spends more time daydreaming than practicing her Pythagoras Theorem, (like Really, Who, besides Maths teachers, actual uses that in their life!?) But still, I was the lead speaker in my schools Debate Team, won 'Outstanding Individual Debater' in both regional competitions we entered and was asked to go out for the Debate Team of Wales - Twice. And was part of my schools Model UN both times. I also did good in my GCSE's, (although admittedly could of done better), I got 2 B's, 1 C and an A in the Welsh Baccalaureate in my A Levels and got into All of the universities which I had applied for. Not bad for a daydreaming Barbie Girl...

Yet still, this was never enough to get people to take me seriously. We had to try out for my high schools Debate Team and when I not only beat all the people who thought I was dumb and them so-smart, but also got put as the main speaker, and instead of congratulations, I was met with shock.

At 16, I was chosen as one of 10 girls to represent Wales and compete in the International Beauty Pageant Miss European - (I didn't win, but I was awarded Miss Personality though!) and have competed in beauty pageants ever since. So so far, we had Beauty Queen, girly Blonde Barbie Girl, and oh did I mention that I was a Cheerleader..? Yeah... no wonder people found it hard to take me seriously.... And I can only hope that this stereotype has been shaken since going to university, but does one ever really know what other people think about them...?

Now do not be mistaken. I did not dye my Blonde hair Brunette for the sole reason of a desperate plea to be taken seriously in the world and not continuously stereotyped, and yes, I am fully aware that perceptions of a person go a lot deeper than just simply hair colour... But my main point is just to highlight how many perceptions are made about a person in general. For example, my university Cheerleading squad friends were shocked to hear that I am also on my universities Debate Team, (I'm secretary in fact..) Just as my beauty pageant and modelling friends are taken aback when I announce that prefer leggings or jeans and hardly bother with make up and my partying friends dismayed at the notion of me actually being a secret loner who just loves to walk alone with her iPod and nothing else and anyone who has seen me where a skimpy outfit on a night out stunned that I am in fact a Christian...

We continuously think we know people and self-consciously put them into groups of people and create our own connotations and assumptions of how we think they really are, (or how they should be), which automatically creates an unintended lack of interest to really get to know someone, and how they think, what their not-so-known-about hobbies are, just simply because we assume that we already know everything that there is to know about them. Perhaps it is because I am in fact what you would I suppose call 'a people watcher' and am fascinated with back stories of how a person came to become the way that they are, that I delve so deeply into these theories... or perhaps I am just so guilty of assuming that people are a certain way before really getting to know them my self...

Either way - I have been stereotyped and fed a lack of respect and people failing to take me as seriously as I would like my entire life just due to my hobbies and interests. Qualities which are unfair to stereotype anyone one. And I know I am not alone. And in my bid to grow up a little, mature my look and have something a little different to look in the mirror at every morning, (and in every shop window, when I check my phone, when I am doing my hair again and again - okay, okay, so I'm a little vain!), I decided to change things up in a way that I never have before. I am also in fact unfortunately quitting Cheerleading and shall no longer be competing in Beauty Pageants and yes, I shall miss them both very much... but I decided that changing my hair will go with all the other changes which are currently happening in my life... I am maturing... sort of....

So here I am. Now a Brunette. And a little bit of a Marilyn and a Jackie.... Blondes have more fun..? Well we'll just have to see about that...



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